What is a betrayal? According to marriage research expert Dr. John Gottman, betrayals can be either the “deception of not revealing your true needs in order to avoid conflict or a yearning for emotional connection from outside the relationship.”
Seeking to understand your own past experiences, especially with emotions and how you learned to express them, will help you recognize whether your responses to conflict are healthy or misguided. Meanwhile, understanding your partner’s history will help you develop empathy and serve as a foundation for friendship and trust.
Defensiveness is a rejection of an invitation for growth and improvement, and an unwillingness to take responsibility for both the solution and the problem.
Sometimes Defensiveness can be subtle if we’re using a soft tone of voice, or using words such as: “I didn’t mean to,” “I didn’t do anything wrong.”
Sometimes Defensiveness can be subtle if we’re using a soft tone of voice, or using words such as: “I didn’t mean to,” “I didn’t do anything wrong.”
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a ritual is a healthy adaption essential to humankind’s survival. As you perform rituals, your brain rewards you with neurochemicals that signal “keep doing this because it may save your life someday.”
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Drawing on extensive research of thousands of couples, The Gottman Institute discovered that rituals impacted couples’ thoughts, feelings and behaviors in a positive way. Moreover, happy couples demonstrated the ability to create and adhere to rituals in their relationship.
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